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Cruel Realities of Romance: Essential Insights Every Lover Should Aware of

True feelings expose vulnerability. If insecurity persists, then genuine love is lacking. - Insights from A Course in Miracles

Untainted devotion eliminates apprehension. Presence of trepidation signifies absence of pure love....
Untainted devotion eliminates apprehension. Presence of trepidation signifies absence of pure love. — A Course in Miracles; Straightforward Insights on Love

Cruel Realities of Romance: Essential Insights Every Lover Should Aware of

Bare-It-All Love Truths

Hey there, folks! Today I'm gonna spill the beans on ten hard truths about love that are worth knowing, enable better relationships, and transform our lives and the world as a whole.

1. Self-love is the foundation of love

Pay attention to those who tell you they love you, but act like there's nothing remarkable about themselves. Guess what? If a person doesn't love themselves, they won't be able to offer any true love to those around. It's as simple as that!

"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." ~Maya Angelou

2. Love isn't selective; it's universal

I used to relish the fact that I only loved a selective few. But guess what? That was mere pride, and I didn't realize that my love was imperfect and flawed. Love, like the sunlight, is not selective; it doesn't favor anyone. It's not exclusive.

"Love is not selective, just as the light of the sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive. Exclusivity is not the love of God but the "love" of ego." ~Eckhart Tolle

3. Codependency is not love

Codependent relationships may appear as love, but in reality, they lack self-reliance. If a partner's happiness depends on your actions or well-being, that's a red flag. Love should never be a one-way street, and both partners need to thrive on their own.

"Small minds see what is big and judge it by its size. A great mind sees what is small and judges it by its importance." ~Eckhart Tolle

4. Love isn't blind infatuation

Infatuation wears off, and love should stand the test of time. If someone really loves you, they will appreciate you through thick and thin - not just in romantic moments but in everyday life as well.

5. Love is eternal

Love is everlasting and transcends time. It's not something you fall in and out of; love lasts as long as you let it.

"We shouldn't fear any relationship just because it hasn't been perfect. We should treasure it because it has been." ~ Anonymous

6. Love isn't blind, or foolish

Love knows when to walk away from toxicity. If your partner mistreats you or brings negativity into your life, it's important to cover your back and get out - for your own sake.

7. Love needs no conditions

True love doesn't ask for anything in return. Love is pure and unconditional. Love doesn't care about your background, race, or wealth; it loves you for who you are.

8. Love should be offered freely and without expectation

It's crucial to give love without expecting anything in return. Love should be spontaneous, genuine, and selfless.

9. The truth about love is timeless

Society may trivialize the word "love," but the essence of love stays the same. The associations we make with the word may change, but love's power remains unshaken.

10. Love isn't what we think it is

Now it's your turn - share a hard truth about love that has changed your life for the better. Let's learn from each other!

Written by Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita, founder of Purpose Fairy, is an enthusiastic seeker of knowledge in psychology, spirituality, and the arts. Her popular blog post, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, was shared by over 1.3 million people on Facebook. Ultimately, it spun into her bestselling book, 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy, published by Penguin Random House. Get more details on her book by visiting the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

  1. Embracing self-love and mindfulness can help foster a more authentic and fulfilling 'love-and-dating' experience, as it ultimately sets the foundation for offering and receiving 'true love.'
  2. In the path of personal-growth and spirituality, one might learn that love, like the 'sunlight,' is universal and doesn't discriminate, favoring no one within the expanse of humanity.
  3. A 'happiness-oriented' lifestyle should not include toxic relationships steeped in 'codependency,' as they can stunt personal growth and obscure the essence of genuine love.
  4. As part of one's educational and self-development journey, it's essential to recognize that love isn't merely blind infatuation but an enduring connection that appreciates and stands by a person through thick and thin.
  5. Pursuing one's passion for 'relationships' and striving for a better world may lead one to acknowledge that love, once nurtured, is eternal, transcending time and invaluable in our daily lives.
  6. When engaging in intimate relationships, the practice of 'mindfulness' reminds us that love often requires wisdom to distinguish between healthy, loving connections and those mired in toxicity, necessitating the courage to walk away for the sake of self-preservation.
  7. In the realm of 'personal-growth' and spirituality, the universal truth unveils that true love should be unconditional, loving someone regardless of their background, race, or material wealth, for love is pure and selfless.
  8. As part of the journey towards personal-growth and happiness, one might discover that love should be shared spontaneously, genuinely, and without expectations, embodying the essence of selflessness and genuine connection.
  9. In the grand design of love and relationships, we recognize that society may dilute or trivialize the word 'love,' but the essential essence of love remains a powerful force, timeless and unchanging.
  10. Encouraged by the teachings of those who have come before us, each one embarking on their journey of self-discovery and 'personal-growth' may find that love, by its very nature, is not what we traditionally perceive or expect, but a profound and inspiring force for transformation.

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